We are continually bombarded with negativity on a daily basis. It's in our e-mails, our social media feeds, the radio, and television. We can't escape it and right now there there seems to be no end in sight. The Covid-19 pandemic, Trumps hate filled Tweets, protests, racism, and political propaganda are all things we see and hear about on a daily basis. With all the negativity that surrounds us it is hard to maintain positive attitude. It also takes its toll on our mental health believe it not.
How has Covid-19 and the utter chaos going on right now effected you and your loved ones? What are some positive things you have been able to find through the midst of all the negativity that surrounds us right now? Has your mental well being be challenged? I know mine has to some degree. Before I continue with this lost I want to assure you all that this too shall past and better days are ahead!
Those of you that know me knows that I strive to turn negatives into positives. I believe something good can always come out of something bad. We are navigating through some dark and troublesome times right now. Even so, I was able to use that to my advantage and was able to turn something negative into a positive!
My husband and I are lucky if we get 4 days off together a month. He works mornings and I work nights so we rarely see each other. In a way that was a good thing because we had allowed past issues to go unresolved and found ourselves in a love hate relationship. We loved to hate each other. Well when both our hours were cut due to COVID-19 we were both home at the same time.
The first day or two was rather quiet because we spent that time in separate rooms of the house. I hid my office working on my website and book promotions and he stayed in bed watching Netflix. It was on day three that we decided to make the most of out time together.
We decided to use our time together stuck at home to work on our marriage. It has paid off big time. We had so many unresolved issues because we never have any time together to discuss them and work them out. Over time those unresolved issues led to resentment, anger, and ultimately the decay of our marriage.
We decided to sit down and hash everything out. We laid everything, and I do mean everything out. We put our anger aside so that we could communicate freely without the other getting defensive. The first day or so was rough but as the days progressed so did our understanding of one another's thoughts, feelings, insecurities, and needs.
I am happy to say that we are much closer, stronger, and happier than we have ever been! We went from barely speaking for days at time (mostly due to our schedules) to talking everyday! We we found the love we thought we had lost.
Through our "Marriage Repair Retreat" as we call it not only were we able to rid ourselves and our marriage of all the negativity we also were able to repair the damage we had caused one another. Now that we have made it a point to set time aside daily to talk we are able to resolve any issues quickly. To be completely honest this has now become the highlight of our day.
It just goes to show that positive thinking leads to positive actions and in turn creates a positive outcome!! You know me, I always look for the good in everything. In the midst of all the chaos we were able to find the true beauty in each other and our marriage. That is such a blessing!
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